New Dear Shandy, The A B C random advise column

Let us combined our thoughts and share our advise


Let us combine our thoughts and share our advise:

Anonomyously, since I do not ask for your name, email  nor for you to join a club…

Dear Shandy will no longer answer your questions (unless you want advise in a private email from me…let me know)

Once again, I want to REACH OUT to random people and listen to what they want to say!!! Not too much success so far, nevertheless…

A: Send your dilemmas to the link below

Dear Shandy….ask a random reader

B: I then will post it on my home page firstly under latest.

  • A custom feature photo or sketch will introduce your problem.
  • You may want to send me your own visual description of your question at

C: Readers will then enter their advise in the comments. 

Threads will be unlimited but monitored by me.

You will then also be able to reply in the comments or send me an email in private


Often I do not understand verbal conversations

“No comment” breeds mystery I thought.  But people wondered if I was smart and shy or maybe just dump or boring.

  • October 6, 2017

“Often I do not understand verbal conversations. In the past, I have therefore kept a silent attitude among the general public.  “No comment” breeds mystery I thought.  But people wondered if I was smart and shy or maybe just dump or boring. In school, most just thought I was just boring… Later I noticed people at work would give up on listening to me, because I have an awkward way of expressing myself. Frustrated, I learned to watch from a far. And then when I finally wished to step up, I clumsily would get real mad, real easily.  My kids often told me to calm down.  I would then smile and let them know I will work on my temper. Inside I was happy to be able to say what I wanted to say, I was making myself heard and I was starting to feel alive. My kids were right though to tell me this because being constantly mad is very hard on your health.  I eventually learned to pace my self. Today, I stay clear of explaining more complex ideas. I keep it to myself and write about it later…. At work, everyone knows me as the girl that emails instead of picking up the phone.” Kathy J.