Human beings are social beings and often depend on others to fine-tune themselves
As a young girl, I loved reading your column. I rarely related to the troubles your writers had, but still I was facinated by their desire to seek your help. I pondered your responses and thought about how I would have answered. I found it amazing: your idea of lending an ear to strangers and letting them feel less isolated…through your wise words. You cared about these people.
Back when the world was much smaller (before social media) you gave troubled people hope!
Although, your success was based on feeding the nosy people of our society!
I do believe that gossiping can provide some help to troubled people by giving them the opportunity to compare themselves to others.
This helps them find clues to where they fit in society.
Is gossip really part of human nature? Yes!!!
“Human beings are mostly social beings and often depend on others to fine-tune themselves.”
“No comment” breeds mystery I thought. But people wondered if I was smart and shy or maybe just dump or boring.
“Often I do not understand verbal conversations. In the past, I have therefore kept a silent attitude among the general public. “No comment” breeds mystery I thought. But people wondered if I was smart and shy or maybe just dump or boring. In school, most just thought I was just boring… Later I noticed people at work would give up on listening to me, because I have an awkward way of expressing myself. Frustrated, I learned to watch from a far. And then when I finally wished to step up, I clumsily would get real mad, real easily. My kids often told me to calm down. I would then smile and let them know I will work on my temper. Inside I was happy to be able to say what I wanted to say, I was making myself heard and I was starting to feel alive. My kids were right though to tell me this because being constantly mad is very hard on your health. I eventually learned to pace my self. Today, I stay clear of explaining more complex ideas. I keep it to myself and write about it later…. At work, everyone knows me as the girl that emails instead of picking up the phone.” Kathy J.